A good arguer is one that respects another persons beliefs, while arguing for their own. They are also able to argue constructively and without raising their voice and exposing their emotions. Some people feel that showing emotion is healthy and adds impact to their reason for arguing. Knowing how far to go is very important for the critical arguer.
The trap, that most individuals fall into, is letting their emotions get carried away. These emotions can lead to false accusations and actions that they will regret later. Destructive fights can lead to unproductive relationships and poor major decisions. They can be hurtful and lead to defensiveness, as well as resentment. It can hurt both parties involved.
Many times, it is good to get things out, before they start building up on the inside. A healthy relationship has room for social confrontation and constructive criticism. This type of arguing can lead to constructive agreements and can eventually strengthen relationships. Learning to work out inner conflicts is very important in successful relationships.
In personal relationships, problems are worked out, partners get past their defensiveness, old wounds heal, individuals get over their insecurities, and individuals begin to work as a couple.
Where do you fall in, when it comes to successful and constructive arguing? To find out if you are an effective arguer, you can take the Discovery Health test for arguing.
(This is not my writing. I copied excerpts from an article at http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1707093/is_arguing_a_healthy_way_of_expression_pg2.html?cat=41. You can read the article in its entirety at the preceding link.)
I think that arguments only help relationships sometimes. Most of the time people will only think they are right, and not get what the other person is saying. If both parties are open, then arguments are helpful.
ReplyDeleteI feel that arguing in a healthy manner is okay, but more times than not healthy arguing can become aggressive and defensive very quickly. At that point one or both of the arguers need to walk away and revisit the argument at a later time.
ReplyDeleteArguing can sometimes benefit a relationship but most of the time the argument can get out of hand and become destructive. People allow their emotions to play large part in the argument and might lead to an arguement going to far ajs no benefits can come out of it.
ReplyDeleteI think arguments for the most part hurt relationships.Usually when you tell someone something and the other person doesnt say something along the lines that you want them to say it can be hurtful. So it mostly doesnt do any good.
ReplyDeleteI think that arguments are important in world, because if there was no arguments the world would be a fake place that never tells whats on it mine.
ReplyDeleteArguing in a relationship can be good and bad. If you argue about something that can easliy be solved, then it wont affect the realtionship in any harmful way. But if the argument is aggressive it can destroy the relationship.
ReplyDeleteI believe that arguing in a relationship is a good thing, to a degree. As the article said there is healthy arguing where constructive criticism is used. However when emotion get carried away is when a argument could turn dangerous and even harmful.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Kyle and carly. Arguements can chante into something extremely daedly when it is about something very touchy. It helps when u think about the other person's reasoning with arguing with u.
ReplyDeleteArguing canbe good or bad for a relationship it depends on the person you are fighting with. Some realatonships, fighting cant be tolerate, and some can withstand great pressure of fighting because it is as if they are fighting for the chance to be together.
ReplyDeletearguing helps put your opinion out and helps build a relationship as long as it isn't about something serious, in the serious situations, it could be bad depending on how stubborn the person is and exactly how serious it is.
ReplyDeleteargueing is good.. it makes a relationship stronger it helps you solve problems
ReplyDeleteI believe good arguments are very good for relationships. They alow you to let off some frustration so you dont keep it bottled up inside.
ReplyDeleteI believe that arguing is a. thing that can make a relationship stronger and it is a good way to let them know how you truely feel(:
ReplyDeletearguing is how you truely get to know somebody. If there is no argumentation, your relationship prior to your arguing may seem somewhat shallow and pointless. But on the other hand, you can not take your arguing to far. Argue with respect for the opposing party, and it will be a good argument.
ReplyDeletearguing is something that can make a relationship stronger it lets them know how you truely feel
ReplyDeleteI believe an arguement is good in a way. It lets a person express themselves with emotion and gives them a chance to truely show whats on their mind.
ReplyDeleteArguements can definitely be good because you dont always agree with someones opions, and so they need to know that you dont. I argue a lot just to do it because it relieves stress for me.
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